
We have our internet back finally and are able to use it from the comfort of our apartment again. Life has shifted yet again and with a new year comes a new plan of action. My mother has continued to be affected by the rheumatoid arthritis and over the past few months has lost a lot of movement and is confined to her chair because of the pain. She's been receiving a real minimum of care as everyone works full days and she was being left alone for much of the time. This disease is so terrible and part of what makes it so frustrating is that there is this hope that it will just suddenly go into remission and she will just jump up and do a tap dance across the living room one day. But trying to operate daily in a state of optimism and hope about
tomorrow, was leading us all to ignore important decisions about how to make
today better and more comfortable. Just after Christmas I had a "DUH!" moment and realized that everyone would be better served if I could just stay home and take care of her. My dad could finish our house himself knowing that my mom was getting the excellent care she deserves. Once I let go of the idea of building our house all by myself from beginning to end (and it really only took about 10 minutes to do so), I was at total peace with the decision and actually very excited to get to do something real and concrete that would make everyone happier and less stressed out. So for about two and a half weeks I've been home with my mom; shopping and cooking her meals, answering the phone, nagging her about drinking enough liquids and helping her get to appointments and keep up with her real estate work. Bea continues to go to her preschool and I do childcare swaps so that she's out of the house for three full days a week. On the two days she's home with me and mum (her Nana) she really works on her skills as a nurse. She's very empathetic and gentle with mum and helps give healing touches and massages to her knees. I'm glad that I'm able to spend this time with both Bea and my Mum and I know that my Dad will build us a beautiful house. I'll keep posting as progress is made and I'm sure I'll get up there on occasion to lend a hammer.
PS. After two weeks of -10 and below tempuratures we've had a thaw and today is sunny and warm...in January! WTH?